Importance Of Forgiveness:
The fact is, being wronged or having the perception of being wronged, as we were here by so close related persons, can influence people's personality; and this did set us off testing our ability to think rationally. But, we were made with bigger hearts with compassion and rational mind than our critics can think and or suggest. If you are harboring resentment, there is a weight on you, and may your soul be saved by God because none of us can, since it is a very deep seated personal choice.
Truth be told, no one can give anyone the best if such perosn holds grudge. Sometimes one may feel lonely and miserable, because he/she is filled with hatred and resentments. But we, Valerian Family, have chosen to live free from such captivity of hatred. Have you ever worked, lived, visited and dwell at a place and have someone not liking you because you remind them of someone? That is an awful place to be and state of mind to be. No matter what we, Valerian Family, did, you Auntie Florentina Masawe, and your followers always have shown us hate at its worse and in a very carefully sneaky ways. We loudly and forcefully said "THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT", not now, not again and not ever we can be forced to conform to traditional glitches that are designed to oust us. That is part of our new chapter, from the closed chapter, as copping way toward this forgiveness. We need nothing from anyone and we will take nothing form anyone.
As Bibi Manyaki used to say, "Kila Mndu Na Mmba Ya Mae, Kuchiwa Na Mondu Pho", meaning that "Everyone Into His/Her Mother's House, One Will Not Have Conflicts". This phrase is noble and priceless. It is one that is seated in our hearts as new us resolution on coping with forgiveness. We don't need any interference, thanks God Almighty, we are who we are and not who our critics thought of us to be. God works on human in his own ways. Prays him all the time.
Auntie Florentina Masawe and followers, why is forgiveness necessary? Forgiveness, helps free persons so that such person can be able move on with his or her life. That's how we, Valerian Family have done all along when encounter conflict after conflict, sadly all are rooted from the segment of Uru Family members hatred of our Mother and us by association. Chagga Traditional glitches have been used all along. But we said "THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT" and we mean it.
Forgiveness and Happiness:
The relationship between happiness and forgiveness is very complex and subjective. This is due to the fact that grounds for forgiveness are very vague and depending upon the people involved in the case/issue that need forgiveness based on many factors i.e. race, culture, environment, geographical location, ethnicity, tradition, nationality, religion, spiritual belief system, politics, e.t.c., of both subjects and people involved, depending on case by case basis. For example, a case study by Maltby, Day & Barber (2005) relates absence of happiness and forgiveness as an association of the intensity on bad consequences of a failure to exonerate and/or blockades to tolerance due to things like self-admiration, anger, neuroticism, aggression, nervousness, despair, antipathy and hatred. Therefore, to forgive and become happy is the absence of the above example given by Maltby, Day & Barber (2005). He continued to say that happiness and forgiveness are only possible through successful tolerance among one another; also to understand one another to why others do, think, believe, act, feel, say, and are the ways they are. This is the process that is through and is known as diversification or tolerating others; especially those who are vulnerable and different from oneself.